{"id":3088,"date":"2014-09-25T06:57:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-25T13:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theparrishplace.com\/library-mama-drama\/"},"modified":"2019-08-13T22:10:06","modified_gmt":"2019-08-14T05:10:06","slug":"library-mama-drama","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theparrishplace.com\/library-mama-drama\/","title":{"rendered":"Library mama drama"},"content":{"rendered":"
Last night we attended Merilee’s<\/a> book launch for PLAYFUL <\/a>+ it was exactly what I needed as a mother. <\/div>\n
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We go to the library every Wednesday at 10 am. This week we ran into some bumps + couldn’t make it on time so we ended up at the 11 AM class with the older kids. More craft time, less singing time. One of the mothers pointed out about half way through “Your kids don’t like to color????!?! That’s so unfortunate. We have to hide the crayons at our house or that’s ALL they would do. It’s amazing.” I cried myself home. You’re telling me that because I don’t love to craft, my kids are doomed?? I mean, I did cheat my way through 6th grade art class by using my best friend’s pictures from the previous semester + never again took another art class. But I guess I’ve always justified my thinking by telling myself that coloring is for older kids.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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Now that I’ve thrown myself under the bus, back to my library thoughts. This sweet lady had no idea what kind of day I was having + I’m sure she didn’t mean for her comment to make me feel like it did. But she also didn’t know that I was fighting tears + had already contemplated selling both Jonah + Riggy to the circus (2 FOR 1!!) three times that day. Sweet gal had no clue my car died, we were stranded without a phone all morning: that being the reason we were attending the later class. She didn’t know how many crappy things had happened + how relieved I was once we made it to the library. Already feeling about 3 inches tall as a mother, that comment completely flattened me. Making everything else going on instantly THAT much worse. The perfect lesson for me of being kind to everyone because we are ALL fighting hard things. It was a good reminder to choose my battles as a mother. To relish in the things I do well vs the things I’m not very good at. That doesn’t mean that I’m perfect + it doesn’t mean comments like that don’t make me feel bad, but it definitely doesn’t mean I’m a bad mother. Why is it so easy to forget that in the moment when your world seems like it’s going to shut down at any moment + how do we get to the point where it doesn’t effect us so negatively? I’ll tell you my thoughts. <\/div>\n

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Coloring isn’t their thing. It’s fine. My boys prefer to rip the paper from the crayons + are more fascinated by the paint water changing colors than putting it onto paper. They love to climb our rock climbing wall + ride their bikes in the driveway. They would swing allll at the park or play imaginary baseball all afternoon long. Jonah has been leaving little thank you notes every where we go lately + Riggy snuggles when he wakes up from a nap. That’s artsy, right? \ud83d\ude42 It’s easy to relish in the qualities we lack as parents or the things our children aren’t super good at yet. The comparison game is such a bitty. But when we play it, we are selling ourselves short. Not fair to us, not fair to our kids. Each child is so unique, so special + needs so deeply to be loved. They belong to us on purpose. I have to ask myself how they feel would feel if they knew that the reason why I don’t want to go back to big kid reading time is because their mom is scared what people will think when they are breaking the crayons in the corner? They’d laugh. Lets get real! <\/div>\n

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Control what you can control + be done with the rest.<\/b> <\/div>\n

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I love this print by Mer! Lets not take our insecurities out on our kids. Pick + choose your battles. Embrace + love your children for who they are! KNOW WHO YOU ARE — know who they are. Jon always tells me that 90% of the time when we get offended by something someone says, it’s because maybe there is a little truth behind it? Take negative comments + let them help you become better. This book<\/a> could not have come into my life at a better moment. I am anxious to put a new twist on art with the boys. So far the paint dotters are working wonders + we’re all walking a little bit taller.  \ud83d\ude42 BABY STEPS! Merilee poured her heart + soul into these pages + if WE can handle these crafts, anyone can. No doubt!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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